Thursday, September 4, 2008

Love is the thing, you know?


I love the Sex and the City movie.  I have seen it 4 times with each of my favorite girlfriends, and I cannot wait until it comes out so I can buy it and watch it again!  While most girls loved it for the clothes and the funny scenes, I loved it for the message.

In the end, Carrie says something that I think is true for relationships and especially for wedding planning.  She says, 

"why is it that we are so willing to write our own vows, but not our own rules?"  

This quote hit me hard, and it got me thinking-women feel so much pressure to have the "perfect wedding" and I think a lot of times it ends up being more of a competition than an actual expression of the love the couple have for each other.  If you don't want a wedding party-don't have one!  If you don't like the garter or bouquet toss-DON'T do it!  There is no rule that says weddings have to follow a guideline.  Make it your own, make it a reflection of you and your partner, not a reflection of the wedding industry's idea of the "perfect" wedding.  

I hear of brides who break down after the wedding from the stress.  They get sick, or they are emotionally a wreck on the honeymoon because it wasn't perfect, or merely because it's over.  

To me a wedding should be about showing your commitment to each other with fun, laughter, relaxing, spending time with loved ones and enjoying yourself.  I wish more women would consider the marriage and not "the best day of your life"

If my wedding day is the best day of my life, I'm going to be extremely disappointed.

5 comments:

goooooood girl said...

Good good good......

2000dollarwedding said...

Exactly! Well said...

Jenny.Lee said...

Very well said! I left the movie with the same exact feeling.

Irishker said...

omg. I couldn't agree more! I LOVE that movie too - but for the same reason as you - the message I took away from it.

Breaking down the traditional "wedding" structure isn't something that people should fear. Couples should feel free to host a wedding that represents themselves, not see how they can fit themselves into the wedding mold.

redframe said...

love the movie, love the message, love your attitude.