Tuesday, November 4, 2008

No Drama Here...

(Hilarious.  I cannot stand her, and she isn't even registered to vote)
WOW, what a weekend.  I don't know about all of you but I am so ready to talk/hear about anything OTHER than the election today.  I voted last week, and feel good about my choice.  I am worried about what today will bring and what will happen to our country if the other party wins, but I'm optimistic that our country will be ok.  

SO on to less stressful things (kind of)

This weekend was fun and exhausting!  Friday was obviously Halloween.  I helped my boss (I'm a nanny) prepare for their neighborhood party.  The kids were so cute dressed as Sully and Mike from Monsters Inc.  They had a great time trick or treating, and it was fun to see how much more they understood it than last year.

Saturday morning Vince and I had to be here (my job) at 7am so the parents could catch their flight to Chicago.  We have the kids until tomorrow, and I am TIRED!  It's so much fun to play parents for 5 days, but we are definitely ready for some alone time when it's over.  We had some friends over to their house on Saturday for the GA/FL game.  It was so much fun!  I love to entertain, but obviously can't do it in our little apartment.  It's fun to have people over to an actual house.  

Sunday was another big day.  We finally went to look at our dream venue (note: for new readers, we are not engaged.  We have been together for 4 years, and I have decided that I'm not going to wait for the ring to start planning our wedding :) )  I blogged about the venue here, but we hadn't seen it yet.  As expected, it was EVERYTHING we hoped it would be and more.  Suzy, the worlds most amazing wedding coordinator, planner, decorator, landscaper, extraordinaire-was as incredible in person as she was via email.  Just so down to earth, sweet, caring, and in LOVE with her job and what she does.  If anyone lives in GA, I strongly recommend checking out Neverland Farms (her website is being revamped.  It doesn't do it justice)    It truly is incredible.  
Now for the stressful part.  We aren't engaged.  Vince is super secretive about when we will be, and I am frustrated.  Not necessarily with him, but with the situation.  I am controlling.  I admit that.  I like to plan, and I like to know what's going to happen and when.  It is so hard for me to relinquish control of this situation and just wait.  We have been together for so long and I'm tired of waiting!  I'm so ready to marry him and start the next chapter of our lives together. 
 I am also ready and 100% willing to let go of the ring and pick out something much more practical.  Like this:

Or this:
Or this:
As my mom pointed out, young married couples nowadays seem to need to have it all right away.  The big ring, the big wedding, the big house, the nice cars, the fancy vacations.  The point my mom makes is that we have our whole lives to build up to these things and look forward to them.  Why do we have to have it all now?  So it's with this in mind that I explained to Vince that I would be so happy to pick a ring out together in an antique store and get engaged.  I don't need to wait for the ridiculously expensive ring.  I would rather get married.  Get a house.  Not have debt.  These are the things that matter.  Not a huge diamond.  Even if they are gorgeous to look at.
He said he needs to think about it.  I think he feels like by not getting the ring I (stupidly) insisted I had to have for so many years, he would be letting me down.

But he wouldn't be.

Because he would be marrying me, and there's no let down there.



10 comments:

Jenny.Lee said...

Whew what a weekend. I'm glad you're back to the blogging world. I know it's frustrating feeling like you don't have control over the situation. It will all work out though. Trust him. :)

bekapaige said...

Ah Paris....

You're right. No let down. Keep that in mind. I know how it feels to be frustrated with a secretive guy and waiting on a ring. Hang in there. It will come, all will be well, and like you said, there will be NO let down. :)

Hannah Noel said...

Looove that first ring picture!

Adrienne said...

Love that pic of Paris - so funny! That blue ring is gorgeous....and I say plan on whether you are engaged yet or not! I am another bride-to-be who started the planning process before actually being engaged, sometimes you just have to. : )

Jenny.Lee said...

You've been awarded! :)

Heather from the bar said...

I was in the exact same position this time last year. Bryan said he wanted to marry me, so we started pseudo panning. my mom wouldn't even talk to me about the planning because it wasn't official. I had a hard time giving up control which one night ended up in a huge fight and Bryan finally telling me the real reasons he was waiting. Things got much better after that though :) We went and got me a 'placeholder' ring which has turned out to be the real thing, and we couldn't be happier! Just wait it out, it will happen and all will be good :) I love the second rings! Gorgeous!

Heather said...

Oh, Paris. Paris, Paris, Paris. But the saddest part is.. how much money she got for that picture. Ohhhh, America...

Neverland farms= BEAUTIFUL. Rings= BEAUTIFUL. The waiting?? Something tells me it's worth it. ;) Love you!

Heather from the bar said...

Thank you for the sharing! I will have Bryan put my email address on there somewhere for next time :) Most of my bridesmaids have had the "are you sure?" conversation with me because of how things, well, went down if you will. Our engagement was non-traditional, as is our wedding, which has brought about a whole new slew of 'are you sure' conversations :) "Are you sure no DJ?" "Are you sure no cake?" and each time I come back with "yes, WE are sure :)"

redframe said...

You've got your priorities straight, now just chill and enjoy the pre-engagement planning... All good things are worth waiting for!

redframe said...

What? That's crazy! Now you send me that boy's telephone number and I'll give him a good talking to! Small world hey? You're confusing me though... You're not engaged but you guys already know what will be in the ceremony? Way to do it upside down! I'll be wed in 16 days and I don't know what will be said in our ceremony, lol!